SORRY... but blabla
I am ambivalent about the word sorry. That´s not to say I don´t acknowledge a person who apologizes for a made mistake and tries to apply that lesson to future actions. We all fail at times, we all hurt other people unintentionally, we all have a tendency to put out behaviour we later want to excuse ourselves for.
But how many times have you heard "sorry" as sheer rhetoric? How many times have you heard "sorry" as a direct move to absolution? There is a difference between the "sorry" that is used to begin something and the "sorry" that is used to end something.
What if a "sorry" is placed over the feelings and needs of the one who gets the apology? "Sorry" easily wipes off critique and opinion. "I said I am sorry, what do yo want more?" Before we go into our own accountability/responsibility (the choices and decisions we make) we often start plotting the excuses. Was it the bus, the dog, the neighbour this time to explain why we arrive late... (we know it was just that we needed to fix the damn hair...)
The possibility of "sorry" is to value that we care for and respect the other - if only a bit late. Everytime we use it to cover up lack of attention and focus, we put it out to inflation. And what to do then if we truly mess things up?
*This of course was written under the spell of the Edukator. Watch out for this uncharming creature on these very pages.
15 Kommentare:
absolutely (very) true! you pointed it out frankly and firmly...perhaps we all better try to be respectuful :)
instead of saying "sorry" too often
(tnx for your comment)
Luckily most of us have a 'sorry editor' and know which sorries mean what.
Maybe everyone is so immune to the word sorry we could substitute a subliminal phrase and no one would know.
"give me chocolate, i'm late."
Hmmmm...I might try this.
What you have written abaut sorry is brilliant. I emphasize in special the difference between the "sorry" for begin and another "sorry" for to end. I think that all your words create a wonderful reflection of that word so "badly" used sometimes.
emmm... I hear and dance :"sorry" By Madonna :) but really my favorite song is: "sorry" by Tracy Chapman
Nicely stated and nicely drawn.
Great comment, cool looking illo. I wish it was larger so I could see more of the detail. Sorry!
Great post, you are so right. Love your illo of the subject.
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Sitting here reading along and nodding in whole hearted agreement (yes yes, tutt tutt), then I reached the bit about creating an excuse for being late before we even arrive and suddenly felt very guilty. I do do that! Oh Dear.
Not sure I'll get away with "Couldn't get out of bed, too cumfy and warm, and what's more it'll probably happen again tomorrow".
You make some good points. Sorry is one of those words that's lost much of its meaning. One thing I am sorry about is that I can't see the detail of your illo...everything is so small and I'm sure I'm missing all ther wonderful little words. What I can see looks great...I love the little figures and their expressions and gestures.
i love what you have yo say here and you are oh so right as always but your pictures seem to have disappeared so i will be back to see what you created for this sorry situation!!!
Where have all your pictures gone?! Or is it just me...I'm sorry that all I can see at the moment is little red crosses before my eyes! I'll come back later.
woo-hoo! I can see again...the Loontown world is visible. They certianly look noisily sorry!
you always have that wonderful slant that I can truly appreciate. Never a run of the mill post always challenging my mind and eyeballs! Thank You!!!
great colours, beatiful landscapes!
whoops i wrote in the wrong window, sorry!
I read your post the other day.Afterward, I went to meet a friend...I was late. Normally I would do the "sorry, but(insert made up excuse)". Maybe it was your post, but I said, "I'm late...I decided to do "blahblah blah" before I left. (It felt good)
Thanks all for not making me feel sorry for this preachy post :)
Janet, see, its a recipe! Actually my one rule for notorious-late comer friends is that I can be accepting of this terrible habit if they never never plague me with stupid excuses. I think it makes both parts feel better.
Lu, don´t worry, I dance to Madonna songs, too :) (if noones looking of course)
Val, *blushing* :)
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